Resolution
I have anger, even rage at my kids choices to extricate me from their life based on (a) my own inability to bond with them in their adolescent and teen years due to my CPTSD, and (b) having a different set of beliefs, and sticking to my beliefs and being called a “bigot” for not embracing their beliefs.
I bear some of the responsibility for their choices, because I empowered them with free will.
I have to decide whether their choices control my own choice of my identity of being a father.
I choose to be a dad, no matter what they tell me and no matter what way they act towards me. I choose that their choices cannot replace my love for them with hate. I choose to replace my anger with love choices. The “feeling” of love is much more peaceful than the “feeling” of their choices controlling my identity. I can choose to allow their choices to eliminate the one thing I wanted most to be, or I can choose that love wins.
I have to be a dad.
I am a dad.
I am a dad.
I AM A DAD.
P.D., Jay Vincent Shore
Accolades to Travis Trit and his song, “It’s a Great Day to be Alive”!
Listen to the words. Note the words and thoughts concerning his children as made in the song.
Remember: The Sun is still shining when we close our eyes. YOU ARE A DAD and your job has been done well. They flew from the nest and must live their lives. Happy Father’s Day!
We travel OUR path as a DAD. I thought my grandfather was an idiot, I thought my dad was mean. Boy, was I wrong.