It’s not that you that failed….I believe others have failed you maybe by lack of understanding or communication or narcissism. You seem to be a smart man especially in ADA and your desire to benefit others by what you have been through. Eventually your children will appreciate you on their own.
Let the feelings burn as appropriate. No more, no less.
But you must maintain something for them to even come back to, if they so choose, whether one day soon, or distant.
People wish to come back and visit something of structure, and relative safety.
Rarely do they wish to attempt to set up camp in, or near, still smoldering ruins.
Goodspeed.
In the meantime, there are millions who could use help more than those few who just happen to be your children.
I’m doing the best version of me that I can.
It’s not that you that failed….I believe others have failed you maybe by lack of understanding or communication or narcissism. You seem to be a smart man especially in ADA and your desire to benefit others by what you have been through. Eventually your children will appreciate you on their own.