And lest we not become too narcissistic from the trauma either (as a protective mechanism, like many narcissists use to protect themselves after their own dark traumas long ago). Fortunately, if we still have empathy, then that's a good sign. Narcissists had theirs shut off long ago, by others, or themselves. (Different from sociopaths and psychopaths who just don't seem to have it at all).
Yes! My beige friend, is an amazing human being! With so many great qualities! Funny, blunt, tells it like it is, yet has had his share of trauma and is telling his story which takes courage to do. And has taught me personally A LOT! I know Jay I’d BAF and if I could afford him I’d request Jays services which would definitely be worthwhile and bring him back to NC, but unfortunately I’m permanently disabled and judges have severely violated my rights here. One eventful got suspended, not because of me but her repeated actions, and behaviors (KARMA YOY CAN CALL IT) I personally have to say that I’ve never seen a narcissist “cut off”. And empathy is in me, a blessing and a curse. The narcissist feed off empathy. Taking the children from an empath is the best way they know to hurt them! It’s evil! I’ll never understand why so many enable the narcissist? I see more and more these days, it’s terrifying
I know this is a huge trauma. But I bet you the kids will come back around eventually. After all you are still their father and you only get one of those. The woman on the other hand sounds like a lost cause. This is not your fault please do not blame yourself. Now you got other work to do and now you have no more distractions from that. Mourn and move on cause that’s what’s required. Nothing has destroyed you yet though many have tried, this won’t destroy you either. I know you, youre gonna make it through this
Hot off the presses, excellent video by Lise Leblanc to help with comprehension, and CLOSURE:
"7 Reasons Why Narcissists Won't Change"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zE_K16_aERc
And lest we not become too narcissistic from the trauma either (as a protective mechanism, like many narcissists use to protect themselves after their own dark traumas long ago). Fortunately, if we still have empathy, then that's a good sign. Narcissists had theirs shut off long ago, by others, or themselves. (Different from sociopaths and psychopaths who just don't seem to have it at all).
Yes! My beige friend, is an amazing human being! With so many great qualities! Funny, blunt, tells it like it is, yet has had his share of trauma and is telling his story which takes courage to do. And has taught me personally A LOT! I know Jay I’d BAF and if I could afford him I’d request Jays services which would definitely be worthwhile and bring him back to NC, but unfortunately I’m permanently disabled and judges have severely violated my rights here. One eventful got suspended, not because of me but her repeated actions, and behaviors (KARMA YOY CAN CALL IT) I personally have to say that I’ve never seen a narcissist “cut off”. And empathy is in me, a blessing and a curse. The narcissist feed off empathy. Taking the children from an empath is the best way they know to hurt them! It’s evil! I’ll never understand why so many enable the narcissist? I see more and more these days, it’s terrifying
I know this is a huge trauma. But I bet you the kids will come back around eventually. After all you are still their father and you only get one of those. The woman on the other hand sounds like a lost cause. This is not your fault please do not blame yourself. Now you got other work to do and now you have no more distractions from that. Mourn and move on cause that’s what’s required. Nothing has destroyed you yet though many have tried, this won’t destroy you either. I know you, youre gonna make it through this
Here's the best chart summary I've seen yet of how the split occurs and the subsequent categories:
https://www.mindfreed.org/_files/ugd/89428f_0eb3c765c7f7494bbc8e03d09a624b4f.pdf
It's found on this page for trauma recovery resources:
https://www.mindfreed.org/resources
If you don't mind me asking, how old are your children now?