Big Hugs, Jay! Clarity of mind and heart is an awesome reward after rooting out the destruction that covert narcissism leaves behind. It’s growth albeit painful at times.
We here in your wider audience greatly appreciate your bravery as an ADA Advocate and now advocating for your own mental and emotional health.
There will be time to connect to your children authentically. Take time though right now to decompress. Make your health a priority!
I find myself repeating the phrase: "We don't know what we don't know," and it popped into my head again while reading this. I have learned to forgive myself for my ignorance. Hopefully, you've done the same.
And of all the masculine/feminine dynamic discussions, Casey Zander's are more ‘technical’, clarifying, and often empowering. Kinda ‘extreme’, but sometimes ‘extreme’ is exactly what’s needed in extreme situations. Something there might help you make sense of past dynamics and how things fell apart with your wife somewhere along the way https://www.youtube.com/@CaseyZander/videos
There are many complex aspects at play here, of course. Tough to navigate.
There are endless videos now on the topic of narcissists, but they are inconsistent. There is one particular series though that is consistently accurate, and I think can help you find more answers:
Big Hugs, Jay! Clarity of mind and heart is an awesome reward after rooting out the destruction that covert narcissism leaves behind. It’s growth albeit painful at times.
We here in your wider audience greatly appreciate your bravery as an ADA Advocate and now advocating for your own mental and emotional health.
There will be time to connect to your children authentically. Take time though right now to decompress. Make your health a priority!
I find myself repeating the phrase: "We don't know what we don't know," and it popped into my head again while reading this. I have learned to forgive myself for my ignorance. Hopefully, you've done the same.
Almost forgot: Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is a game changer = https://archive.org/details/RobertGloverNoMoreMrNiceGuy
And of all the masculine/feminine dynamic discussions, Casey Zander's are more ‘technical’, clarifying, and often empowering. Kinda ‘extreme’, but sometimes ‘extreme’ is exactly what’s needed in extreme situations. Something there might help you make sense of past dynamics and how things fell apart with your wife somewhere along the way https://www.youtube.com/@CaseyZander/videos
Meanwhile, Roman Zanoni also teaches about narcissists, plus CPTSD recovery. Not just for men, but everyone: https://www.youtube.com/@romanzanoni
There are many complex aspects at play here, of course. Tough to navigate.
There are endless videos now on the topic of narcissists, but they are inconsistent. There is one particular series though that is consistently accurate, and I think can help you find more answers:
Lise Leblanc = Videos on this topic FOR MEN: https://www.youtube.com/@LiseLeblanc/videos
I've been there. It's tough going through a divorce with a narcissist but once it's over life gets better. Hang in there.